What to Say to Kids When The 新闻 Is Scary

这个消息可能是毁灭性的. 事件 such as a mass shooting at an elementary school can be incomprehensible to adults — so how do we talk about them with kids? KQED’s MindShift spoke with a handful of child development experts about what parents, teachers and other caregivers can say to help kids process all the scary news out there.

限制他们接触突发新闻

Rosemarie Truglio, senior vice president of curriculum and content at Sesame Workshop says that for starters, try not to let your children experience the news without you. That includes letting the TV or audio play in the background. In 2017, 42 percent of parents of young children told Common Sense Media that the TV is on “always” or “most” of the time.

Truglio says that because we can’t control the news itself, adults need to control the technology that exposes kids to potentially 创伤tic news.

For big stories, ask: “What have you heard and how are you feeling?”

While it’s important to limit your kids’ exposure to potentially frightening media, some stories are simply too big to avoid. 随着孩子长大, 如果他们在家里不知道的话, they’ll almost certainly hear something from classmates at school.

塔拉康利, a media researcher at Montclair State University, says adults should choose a quiet moment to check in with their kids, maybe at the dinner table or at bedtime.

给孩子事实和背景

Truglio says that if scary news is happening far from home, the best thing a parent or caregiver can do is to reach for a map. Then, 她说, a child could “see distance, that it’s not in their immediate environment.”

Some 创伤tic events, however, might be closer to home — a school shooting, for example. In that case, it’s important to convey that, overall, 这样的事件非常罕见. 毕竟，这就是为什么它是新闻.

When they ask why something happened, avoid labels like “bad guys”

Truglio says we should resist the temptation to label anyone “bad guys” or “evil.” It’s not helpful, and it may increase fear and confusion. Instead, 她说, talk about people being in pain, being angry and making bad choices.

根据特鲁里奥的说法, there’s one important thing parents shouldn’t be afraid to say: I don’t know.

Encourage kids to process the story through play and art

Children often try to make sense of what they see and hear through art and creative play. Sometimes it can be disturbing for adults to see children reenact or draw something scary or violent, but this kind of play serves an important purpose.

Conley says, “Play is part of reconstructing [children’s] own stories.” She calls it “meaning-making” and says adults do it too — by discussing stories with friends or even sharing memes on social media. “It also helps us make sense of the world around us … when we’re being bombarded with information,她解释道, “and it helps us discern credible information.”

“寻找帮手”

There’s evidence that talking about helpers really does make a difference in how kids see their world. After the Columbine school shooting in 1999, Sesame Workshop studied school-age children’s perceptions of the world through their drawings. The images were full of violence, Truglio says: “guns and knives and dead people.”

但是在圣堂之后. 11袭击, 仅仅两年后, 媒体报道改变, 她说, focusing more on themes like “the country is strong. And this made a difference for kids: Their drawings featured American flags and heroes like police officers or firefighters.

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Source: MindShift | What to Say to Kids When The 新闻 Is Scary, http://www.kqed.org/mindshift/59143/war-crisis-tragedy-how-to-talk-with-kids-when-the-news-is-scary | Copyright © 2022 KQED INC

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